Best gay man
What Gay and Bi Men Really Want
Are physical and sexual attraction the most appealing qualities in a partner? Or are unseen qualities like good manners and reliability the most attractive?
Following on from his research into what straight women want and what straight men want, D&M Research’s managing director Derek Jones has taken the next logical step with his latest study into what gay and bi(sexual) men want.
In order to dig deeper and draw out a real list of turn-ons and turn-offs for gay and bi men, Derek once again used of the Im-Ex Polygraph method. He originally devised this method of analysis to distinguish what people say they want from brands, products or services from what they really want by comparing stated versus derived measures of importance.
Qualities the gay and bi men said they desired in a partner (‘stated’) were compared to the qualities exhibit in example celebrities they nominated as attractive (‘implied’). The similar comparison was made between stated and implied negative qualities, to determine what attributes are really the biggest turn-offs.
Photo credit: Shed Mojahid
Article by Hugo Mega (edited by Alyssa Lepage)
I used to think that “coming out” was going to be the hardest part of being gay. That, being free to be me, I could finally stop pretending. I would be able to drop the heteronormative disguise that I used to wear, to ensure that I belonged and that I felt safe. Little did I comprehend that in the years that followed, more often than not, I would find myself butch-ing up, trying to be more masculine than what I naturally was. How did I discover myself here again?
Like walking on thin ice, any false advance I made, could easily fling me back into a loop of old patterns that condition my ways of being and behaving without me even noticing it.
Tired of this self-limiting pattern, I decided to confront my beliefs around masculinity. Since then I’ve been engaged in deconstructing my conditioning and notions of what it means to be a man. In the process of deconstructing my beliefs it was difficult to avoid one’s own toxic masculinity. I used to believe that being gay absolved me from being toxic like many straight man ca
All the Openly Gay Male Celebs Who Are Out, Proud &#; Smokin&#; Hot
There are a ton of beautiful men in Hollywood, but some of Tinsel Town&#;s gay celebrities are some of the most exceptional examples that validate because there&#;s nothing better than owning and loving who you are.
Being a gay man in Hollywood or the music industry isn&#;t easy and, while we&#;ve come along way when it comes to letting gay men tell their own stories, there is always room to confirm. Through the years, some of the men on this list have kept their sexuality a secret, until the world made it safe for them to come out, while others hold chosen to make their sexual orientation known since the moment they became famous. Either way, these men have been proof that there is no incorrect way to be who you are!
The Queer Eye cast is the perfect example of owning their queerness and spreading their joy and love to others around them. &#;I&#;m thankful that we&#;ve been given opportunities, but I know the five of us are always [trying] to continue to open the door for someone behind us or beside us,&#; Kar
Many gay men grew up feeling ashamed of not conforming to cultural expectations about “real boys” or “real men.” Especially during middle and high school, they may have been bullied or publicly humiliated because of their difference—made to feel like outsiders and not “one of the boys.” They may have create it easier relating to women than men, though they didn’t fully belong to the noun group, either.
Every gay man I’ve seen in my practice over the years has had a conflicted, troubled relationship with his own masculinity, often shaping his behavior in destructive ways. Writing for Vice, Jeff Leavell captures the dynamic nicely: “Queer people, especially gay men, are known for dealing with a slew of self-doubts and anxieties in noxious ways. Gay men are liable to feel incredibly insecure over their masculinity, a gentle of internalized homophobia that leads them to idolize 'masc 4 masc', 'gaybros' and [to] shame and oppress femme men.”
Here we see one of the most common defenses against shame: getting rid of it by offloading or projecting it onto somebody else; in this case, one