Signs a man is gay and hiding it
Is My Husband Gay? Signs of a Gay Husband
Sometimes a lady may have been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may locate herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women find this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, , an professional in women married to gay men, it is estimated that 4 million women have been, or are, married to gay men. If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well.
Signs of a Gay Husband – Is My Man Gay?
The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't arrive this place of honesty on their own. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.
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The Closet: Psychological Issues of Being In and Coming Out
In the jargon of contemporary homosexual culture, those who hide their sexual identities are referred to as either closeted or said to be in the closet. Revealing one's homosexuality is referred to as coming out. Clinical experience with gay patients reveals hiding and revealing behaviors to be psychologically complex.
Homosexual Identities
In the developmental histories of gay men and women, periods of difficulty in acknowledging their homosexuality, either to themselves or to others, are often reported. Children who increase up to be gay rarely receive family support in dealing with antihomosexual prejudices. On the contrary, beginning in childhood--and distinguishing them from racial and ethnic minorities--gay people are often subjected to the antihomosexual attitudes of their own families and communities (Drescher et al., ). Antihomosexual attitudes include homophobia (Weinberg, ), heterosexism (Herek, ), moral condemnations of homosexuality (Drescher, ) and antigay violence (Herek and Berrill, ). Hiding a
Internalised homophobia and oppression happens to gay, lesbian and bisexual people, and even heterosexuals, who include learned and been taught that heterosexuality is the norm and “correct way to be”. Hearing and seeing negative depictions of LGB people can lead us to internalise, or take in, these negative messages. Some LGB people suffer from mental distress as a result.
A general sense of personal worth and also a positive view of your sexual orientation are critical for your mental health. You, prefer many lesbian, gay and bisexual people, may have hidden your sexual orientation for a adj time. Research carried out in Northern Ireland into the needs of young LGBT people in revealed that the average age for men to realise their sexual orientation was 12, yet the average age they actually confided in someone was It is during these formative years when people are coming to understand and acknowledge their sexual orientation that internalised homophobia can really affect a person.
Internalised homophobia manifests itself in varying ways that can be linked to mental health. Examples
How hiding your sexuality can impact your mental health
June is PRIDE month; a celebration that reminds us to be proud of who we are, no matter who we love or how we identify. PRIDE is a marker of how far LGBT+ rights have come, however it’s also a chance for us to recognise the issues that these groups still face and raise awareness so we can tackle them.
Sadly, lots of people feel as though they have to hide their sexuality because they’re worried about being judged or even harmed. 64% of LGBT+ people have been victims of anti-LGBT+ violence or abuse and only 46% of lesbian, gay and bi people feel as though they can be open about their sexual orientation to everyone in their family.
Whether someone has experienced homophobia or biphobia first-hand or through others, this can cause them to shy away from sharing their orientation. They may even internalise these beliefs and advance negative feelings towards their hold sexuality. When we feel as though we have to repress or hide who we are, this can take its toll on our mental health.
The impact on mental health
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