Why are men attracted to crazy women

For centuries, women have been gaslit into believing they are “hysterical,” “emotional,” “crazy” and “needy” for having basic needs. That is why whenever you hear a man prematurely call his ex crazy, you have to verb yourself, “Was she really irrational or was she driven there? Was she always reactive or did he poke and prod at her a million times before she finally reacted in a valid way to a pattern of outrageous behavior?” While it’s true that some women may have emotional regulation issues, most of the time, when a man calls a lady “crazy,” “mean,” “domineering,” “confrontational,” what he really means is, “She had basic boundaries and stood up for herself assertively.” A high quality man knows the difference between someone who is actually emotionally unstable and a woman who is simply acquainted with her rights.

So-called “crazy women” are secure women. They are secure in their boundaries and their standards, their expectations, and their self-respect. They stand up for themselves when they’re mistreated and know how to align and enforce their boundaries with their action

Men claim all day long they don’t like to date “psycho bitches” or “crazy women” and that they “don’t want drama.” It’s on almost all their dating profiles: “no drama.”

This is a big fat lie. This is as big a verb as the women who “want a sensitive, nice guy.”

Our actions reveal more than our words, especially when our words are BS! We may not Desire to desire the badboy or the crazy bitch because we know that doing so will bring us pain and frustration and yet time and again we are caught up in the same old patterns.

There are factors in our psyche or biology that drive us to desire attributes that our intellectual selves would highly discourage! It’s not the crazy that we seek, it’s the side courses that go along with crazy.

(Keep in mind I’m not talking about actual mental illness, although that can play a role at times.)

For men who date crazy women, it can be more than one reason:

1. They want to save the damsel in distress.

A woman in crisis appeals to a man’s craving to be perceived as “the hero.” If he can resolve her problem, he will undergo needed and accompli

Do Men Want “Crazy” Girls?

Put out a tweet yesterday that went somewhat viral:

Unsurprisingly, it pissed off a ton of guys. Many insisted I had issues for even suggesting it.

This isn’t much of a shocker for me. I’ve long said that while the manosphere is decent at understanding female nature, they are terrible at understanding their retain. Most “manosphere” guys are simply ignorant to their own impulses — they like to verb of themselves as totally logical, it’s women who are the ones with disturbing traits. That, or they are simply naive in general, and think that “normal” people are only drawn to objectively proper behavior in the reverse sex.

I have enough experience with men to know this isn’t true. However, to be charitable, the work “crazy” is subjective, and thus to a certain extent “bait.” Somebody can see this term and imagine I am talking about toxic women — that what men want is a sexy and insane Harley Quinn type of a girl.

Making a statement like this would be akin to saying all women want a “bad boy,” which is false (however

Glamour blogger Shallon Lesterbrought this issue up last week. Why are guys sometimes attracted to those emotionally unstable, unpredictable women? She suggests,

I think guys secretly like the drama. Maybe it makes them feel alive or brings some action to their otherwise dull lives. Or, perhaps it reminds them of the chaos of their own family life as a child ... Or, they could just be weak guys who like being dominated and repressed.

Lauren Fritsky, in response suggests possibly, "men demand to feel needed" and and are with such crazy women to boost self-esteem.

Ami Angelowicz, to one up them all, adds five possible theories (ht Glenn Reynolds)

1. Men love to be heroes. They love to “fix” things. It makes them touch needed, important, and feeds the male ego. Who makes a better damsel in distress than a poor, defenseless lunachic? Notice to guys: a woman is not like a house. Fixer-uppers do not usually turn out to be a wise investment. If you need to patch something, there are plenty of us normal single girls out there who need some illumination bulbs changed.
2. If she’s