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Top, Bottom, Verse: A Definitive Guide to Gay Terminologies
Gay culture is incredibly rich and diverse and has a language all its own. Though the Internet has helped to diminish the sense of isolation that many gay people may have felt in the past, theres still a certain code to online gay culture.
Understanding a few basic gay terminologies, especially ones that will aid you learn how to enhanced communicate with gay men, can help you get more out of your online dating experience.
So whether youre an old pro or just beginning to study about gay sex, here is a look at some of the most common gay terminologies as we give you the low-down on the difference between top, bottom, and versatile
What Are the Gay Male Identities?
The most common gay male identities are Top, Bottom, and Verse. The definitions of each are relatively self-explanatory:
- The top is the person in charge and/or performing the sexual act.
- The bottom is the person taking control and/or receiving the sexual act.
- The verse is someone who can go either way. They are the sexual chameleons of the gay
What Does “Top” Mean?
In the context of gay relationships and sexual dynamics, terms such as “top”, “bottom”, “verse” and “side” are often used to describe a person’s sexual preferences and roles. It is important to knowing these terms not only for members of the LGBTQ+ community, but also for increasing kind and acceptance of queer relationships in society.
What Does “Top” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsCommunication and ConsentWhat Does “Bottom” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsThe Stigma Around Being a BottomWhat Does “Verse” Mean?Accepting DiversityCommunication and CompatibilityWhat Does “Side” Mean?Non-Penetrative IntimacyOpposing NormsAccepting One’s IdentityRoles and MythsHealth and Protection During Gay Sex
As a dictate, in gay sexual relationships, the “top” is the partner who has a penetrative role during anal sex. However, the concept of top includes much more than just physical actions: it includes a whole set of attitudes, preferences, and sometimes sentimental roles.
Physical Aspects
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Wading into the world of gay culture, sex, and dating can be overwhelming — from history to pop culture to norms for meeting people socially and romantically, it can verb like there’s too much to get caught up on. One thing that can be tricky at first is navigating gay community terms. If you’re trying to find your footing on gay dating apps, you may see people describing themselves or what they’re looking for in terms you’re unfamiliar with. No need to panic; here’s your comprehensive guide to the diverse types of gay men.
Top/bottom/vers
Many gay guys — especially on dating apps, where matching for sexual compatibility is the goal — identify as a top, bottom, or vers, indicating whether they prefer to be the penetrating partner or the penetrated partner, or are interested in either role depending on the situation or partner. Some gay boys might identify as a specific subtype of these roles — like a dom top — or find that one of their other identities has something important to do with their sexual role, like being a twink bottom.
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Troye Sivan said he's a 'verse' during sex, not a 'top' or 'bottom.' Here's what the terms mean.
Troye Sivan, a singer known for his track "Bloom," recently set straight rumors that he only enjoys receiving penetration during sex.
"I think in the sort of consciousness of gay people I'm some crazy authority bottom or something, which is just not the case, and I just wanted to place that out there," Sivan, a gay man, said on Emily Ratajkowski's podcast "High Low."
Sivan said that he's a "verse," meaning he enjoys both penetrating a partner and being penetrated during sex.
"Verse," as well as the terms "top" and "bottom" are popular ways to describe sexual preferences in the queer community.
While the terms were originally used to describe the sexual preferences of queer men in the s, more LGBTQ+ people own adopted the terms to chat about what they like in sex.
Lately, top/bottom/verse discourse has grown more visible on TikTok, where queer people have been making videos describing the unique struggles of each preference.
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