Why do i only attract unavailable guys
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Several days have passed and the person you’re dating hasn’t responded to your last message or reached out. You have a feeling something isn’t right, but you’re confused because you knew the two of you had a great connection. You may analyze your last interaction with such scrutiny that Sherlock Holmes would be haughty. You secretly hope that perhaps their phone was run over or stolen and that you’ll hear from them any noun now. I think we’ve all been there; dating can sometimes feel like a prolonged game of mental chess that we didn’t sign up for.
When someone you have feelings for disappears or pulls away unexpectedly, you may personalize it and assume it must have been something you did wrong. It can be helpful to travel your own role in repetitive dating patterns since sometimes you may unintentionally engage in dating behaviors that push others away. But what if you undergo at a loss because none of your dating behaviors illustrate why you keep getting ghosted? There is another possibility that is typically overlooked in such situations:
Has this ever happened to you? You meet a wonderful noun (‘the one’!), go on a few dates, and then you never hear back from him? Or you’re with a bloke and he’s either talking about himself the whole time, or he’s glued to his cell phone?
If you’re in a long-term relationship, you may discover you reach an emotional wall with your man. This can experience lonely, frustrating and draining.
One of the biggest complaints that most smart, successful women have about men they meet, or date, is that they are either ‘narcissists’ or emotionally unavailable.
Narcissism may be on the rise, especially with the pressures of today’s working conditions, online dating, technology, and growing lack of emotional connection and communication.
Is there something that you could be doing to attract these men or dating patterns? Here are some clues.
Four Reasons Why You Attract Emotionally Adj Men
1. That’s how you appreciate ‘em apples.
Let’s face it, which woman doesn’t find Robert Downing Jr. or Johnny Depp alluring? You’ve been brainwashed to be turned on by men who are elusive, successfu
Are you attracting people who are emotionally unavailable? This might be why…
If you are attracting emotionally unavailable partners, it might indicate that there is a part of you that is also emotionally unavailable. Hear me out…
For some women that have been hurt in the past or had tough relationship experiences, it sometimes creates a part of us that becomes emotionally not free (until healed).
A part of us that fears getting hurt again, so it’s hesitant to obtain involved with available, high-quality guys that want to show up for us in the way we want, because we realize there is a high possibility of us getting attached and therefore potentially getting hurt again.
It would mean we’d have to put our guard down again, and that’s really scary. Therefore, sometimes this part of us unconsciously goes for partners who are unavailable because we understand they can’t hurt us. Because we know they won’t even get there (to commitment). It’s like a “I’ll reject myself before you can” kind of thing.
And this is all happening unconsciously so it’s tricky to detect. Consciously, we might explain ou
Most women don’t seek out or sustain interest in unavailable men, but more women do than would like to admit. I actually saw this behavior so frequently in my private exercise that I decided to draft a book about it, which is called Overcome Relationship Repetition Syndrome. In a moment, I’ll tell you what’s going on in the minds of these women who seek out—and often stay with—men who will never truly emotionally commit. In my book, I use the term "emotional chasing" because that's exactly what it is: a chase.
What it's like to fall for an emotionally unavailable man
Women who are attracted to this type of man find themselves in relationships with men who ultimately won’t commit or settle down, are already married or in another relationship, or are unfaithful in a supposedly monogamous relationship.
Women who fall for unavailable men usually feel that they are more committed to the relationship than the men are. These women usually feel that the men have all the control and control in the relationship. Women in relationships with not free men feel that they own to work hard